Since when is hunger a bad word in your vocabulary?
You believe you don’t have the right to get hungry until you are 20 pounds thinner.
But then why, when you’re not hungry at all, you fear that skipping a meal will lead to eating the universe later on?
Everyone is doing this wrong.
Want to know why?:
Research has shown that people who eat when they’re NOT hungry end up eating JUST AS MUCH at the next meal as people who haven’t eaten.
So here’s what I repeat to my clients and what I’ll be telling you from now on:
If you’re not hungry, for all things holy, DO NOT EAT!!
Skipping a meal will NOT make you eat more at the next seating.
Binge-prevention through eating when not hungry doesn’t exist.
Let’s say you are hungry. Your decision to eat will reduce tension. But your decision NOT to eat can also reduce tension.
As I said last week, hunger is not an emergency.
And the best part? Hunger doesn’t build up. Instead, it comes and goes. In waves.
You experience about two to three actual hunger waves a day. Not more than that.
But each wave doesn’t go on forever: A hunger wave lasts for about 10 minutes in your system.
After that, it biochemically dissipates.
When naturally thin people feel hungry, they don’t go into “panic mode” and certainly don’t get frightened.
They figure they’ll always be able to find something when they’re hungry. They’re also able to withstand the hunger if it’s not convenient to eat.
In most cases, they have no problem holding off until the next meal.
But when YOU are hungry, oh boy… beware anyone on your way! You get anxious and worry about when you’re going to have an opportunity to eat again.
You believe that the future version of yourself will take care of things. In other words, that skinny bitch won’t let you feast.
So your brain goes “This is my last chance to have it!”
I have news for you: You have what I call “Food FOMO.” Fear of missing out. On food!
As a recovered Food FOMO-turned neuroscience freak, let me share a secret with you.
Every time you resist eating something you shouldn’t, you’re strengthening your tendency to resist in the future.
You’re strengthening what I call your “hunger-resistance muscle.”
However, each time you give in and eat something you shouldn’t, you’re strengthening your tendency to give in.
If you want to be, feel and think like a naturally thin woman, you need to take every opportunity to strengthen your hunger-resistance muscle and to weaken your giving-in muscle.
You now understand the difference on an intellectual level, but it’s still important for you to experience the difference on a physical level.
You don’t have to eat when you’re hungry. Just because you want to eat doesn’t mean you always should.
I have an experiment for you.
You’re going to put the discomfort of hunger in perspective.
In the next 7 days, I want you to pick one where you’ll purposely skip your BIGGEST meal.
Choose a day when you know you’ll be busy and you predict you won’t be faced with irresistible eating triggers. Many of my clients tried this experiment on a workday.
You will survive. Because hunger is NEVER an emergency.
Religious people have gone for more than a week without food and haven’t died. So, precluding a medical disorder, we definitely don’t need to eat our biggest meal of the day.
It’s important for you to learn to tolerate hunger. Just as a child when told to wait until her next meal. Eventually, hunger won’t seem like such a big deal.
Don’t respond to hunger immediately by eating. Tell yourself:
“Hey ho, oh well. It’s okay … I can wait.”
You’ll then be able to turn your attention to other things, and the hunger wave will disappear.
French women instinctively do this: Snacking in between meals is rare, because arriving at the table with a nice appetite is an essential ingredient to good food.
Skipping your biggest meal of the day isn’t nearly as uncomfortable a sensation as you now believe.
You won’t be missing out on anything: The next meal will be the most delicious thing you’ve ever tasted.
So plan for it well.
Now, before you do that, I want to hear from you: WHAT’S YOUR BIGGEST MEAL OF THE DAY? Or what’s your longest “eating window” in a given day? Do you fear skipping it??
Make sure you leave a comment below with the specific answer.